This is a place for survivors of sexual or domestic violence (and those who love us) to express ourselves. Speak it or write it, paint it or sculpt it, sing it or dance it -- whatever the creative format -- healing truly begins when we end the silence, even if it starts with a whisper.

At Survivors Standing Tall we might choose to

tell or illustrate what happened to us
explain or illustrate how we came to know the truth
name the perpetrator, because it's their shame not ours
testify to the impact on our lives
reflect on how we managed to stay alive
offer the wisdom of our experience
find support and learn from others who understand
propose strategies for how to end this epidemic that has lived on for far too long
make it safer for others to come forward

My abuse began around the age of three from within an Anabaptist-Mennonite faith community. As with many child victims, this betrayal plagued and haunted me into my adult life. Because I have a special place in my heart for survivors who share my Mennonite heritage, that is the focus of this blog. That being said, folks from all faiths, and no faith, are always welcome here.

It matters not how long ago it happened, nor whether the offender is living or dead.

It was not our fault nor our shame to carry.

Things may be bad right now, but they won't always be.

We are not alone anymore. We can stand tall now.

Truth can be the best medicine.

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Definitions

Rape

Rape is defined by the DOJ as "the penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim."

Sexual Assault

Sexual assault is defined by the DOJ as "any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient."

CONSENT

Consent means actively agreeing to be sexual with someone. It is freely given, enthusiastic, specific, informed and reversible.

Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is defined by the DOJ as a pattern of abuse including "any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone."

It is the insatiable dedication to uncovering the absolute truth that keeps us from turning a blind eye to...injustice...secrets and lies...Speaking our truth is the most powerful tool we all have.

Oprah Winfrey

A 20 second Sexual assault can Forever Alter a Life.It is a crime.It is never okay.

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