February 17, 2017

just when the power of positive thinking
had me thinking I had some control
i got knocked to my knees by a hot dog wagon.
not flattened not thrown not knowing what hit me
just knocked to my knees and forced to bow down.
– Mama Donna Henes

 If lessons are going to be lea...

August 18, 2016

“It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator.  All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing.  [The perpetrator] appeals to the universal desire to see, hear and speak no evil.  The victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden...

September 15, 2015

Mennonite Conference of Eastern Canada (MCEC) has released that it has received an allegation of “sexual and ethical misconduct” implicating a former pastor, Vernon Leis, of Tavistock, ONT, Canada, who is deceased. In order to reveal the full truth, we urge any victims...

September 15, 2015

"We [who break the silence] are not the creators of tension. 

We merely bring to the surface the hidden tension that is already alive.  

We bring it out into the open where it can be seen and dealt with.

Like a boil that can never be cured as long as it is...

January 1, 2015

In 1985, after weeks of intensive training, I started volunteering at the Los Angeles Rape Hotline (taking calls, accompanying victims to court, etc). After about a year on the job, it started getting to me. Every time a call came in I felt like the victim’s voice (tel...

January 21, 2014

It’s so very difficult to put into words.  So when a poet hits the nail on the head it can take your breath away.

That was the case when I first read Di Brandt’s poem non-resistance or love Mennonite style. Without this poem it seems this website is incomplete....

August 15, 2013

A guy in a bar once told me: “I’ve never met a woman who was angry enough.”

A sex crimes law enforcement officer told us trainees at the Los Angeles Rape Hotline, “First they say they are fine, then they cry, and then, finally, some of them get mad. It’s not until I see...

July 17, 2013

[Updated January 31, 2018]  

In early June of 2013, responding to a book review written in The Mennonite, a publication of Mennonite Church USA, I created a Facebook note about renowned Mennonite theologian John Howard Yoder’s sexual abuses and what I thought the c...

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"In a futile attempt to erase our past, we deprive the community of our healing gift.

If we conceal our wounds out of fear and shame,

our inner darkness can neither be illuminated nor become a light for others."

 Brennan Manning


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