March 22, 2018

Kaylyn Herdman's slam poetry and video art exposes the playbook of an abusive pastor like nobody's business. It is a playbook that has played out again and again in Christian churches. The 'beloved leader' carefully lays his web to snare unsuspecting women he is suppos...

January 31, 2018

I was 12 or 13 when I had a dream that Jesus was reaching out to me and he was asking me to reach out to him.

When I was born, my big sister and my mom created homemade birth announcements to welcome me into the world. My five-year-old sister drew pictures of a little b...

May 10, 2017

After hearing Lauren Shifflet’s & Kay Ellen’s stories, I felt compelled to write the following article.

Lauren and Kay have been victims of betrayal from their churches and church families. They trusted their ministers and church elders to protect them a...

May 8, 2017

Prior to the new millennium I had never experienced depression, as I understand it now, and therefore could not relate to those who had. However, by early 2002 that changed. My husband and I were experiencing financial difficulties as a result of 9-11 and the subsequen...

April 12, 2017

This may be an unfair assumption, but many people are probably only reading this post to hear about my experiences with Luke Hartman. My story is so much bigger than him though, and writing this post has involved revisiting some of the hardest moments of my life. Pleas...

February 17, 2017

just when the power of positive thinking
had me thinking I had some control
i got knocked to my knees by a hot dog wagon.
not flattened not thrown not knowing what hit me
just knocked to my knees and forced to bow down.
– Mama Donna Henes

 If lessons are going to be lea...

August 18, 2016

“It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator.  All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing.  [The perpetrator] appeals to the universal desire to see, hear and speak no evil.  The victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden...

April 21, 2016

Lauren Shifflett recently shared the story of the sexual trauma she experienced in her life including how Luke Hartman coerced her into a sexual relationship, then stalked and threatened her when she tried to end it. If you have a moment, please read it with caution an...

September 15, 2015

Mennonite Conference of Eastern Canada (MCEC) has released that it has received an allegation of “sexual and ethical misconduct” implicating a former pastor, Vernon Leis, of Tavistock, ONT, Canada, who is deceased. In order to reveal the full truth, we urge any victims...

September 15, 2015

"We [who break the silence] are not the creators of tension. 

We merely bring to the surface the hidden tension that is already alive.  

We bring it out into the open where it can be seen and dealt with.

Like a boil that can never be cured as long as it is...

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"In a futile attempt to erase our past, we deprive the community of our healing gift.

If we conceal our wounds out of fear and shame,

our inner darkness can neither be illuminated nor become a light for others."

 Brennan Manning

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